Among this batch of students, Ran Xiaofei is a pretty girl. She has fair skin and wears a long ponytail, looking youthful and sunny. Junior high school girls know how to love beauty. Since everyone usually wears school uniforms, they make efforts on shoes and like to express their love for beauty through the hair accessories on their ponytails. Many girls wear brand-name sports shoes, and the decorations on their braids are constantly changing. Ran Xiaofei is one of them.
Ran Xiaofei is a proud girl, beautiful, lively and fashionable, just like a princess. I guessed that her family must be very good and her parents spoiled her. Once, when I saw the parent's signature on her exercise book, I found that her mother wrote: "Recently, the child's thoughts have fluctuated. Please trouble the teacher." I asked: "What did your mother mean?" She said: "My mother is naggy. She meant that I wasn't serious with my homework." I asked again: "What does your mother do?" She hesitated a little: "She's at work." Then, she refused to say another word.
One afternoon, a woman dressed in rustic clothes came to the school, saying that she was Ran Xiaofei's mother and came to deliver something to her. I was somewhat puzzled and asked: "Is it Ran Xiaofei? Does she know you're coming?" She said: "She doesn't know and doesn't want me to come. This time I deliberately came." This simple woman must have something to say.
Sure enough, she told me about the situation at home. Ran Xiaofei's parents originally worked in a factory, but later, due to the poor efficiency of the factory, they resigned and pedaled a tricycle to sell vegetables to support the family. The couple got up early and worked late. Although they didn't earn much, their life was passable. However, the year before last, Xiaofei's father had a car accident while purchasing goods and became disabled in his leg. Since then, the family situation has deteriorated. Now, the couple has set up a small stall on the street to make a living and life is very difficult.
Ran Xiaofei's mother said that since the child entered junior high school, she has become more and more vain. She often pesters several aunts whose families are well-off to buy shoes and clothes for her and pays special attention to dressing up. Meanwhile, her study has regressed.
What this mother can't bear the most is that Xiaofei never mentions her parents in front of others, thinking they are shameful, and even deceives her classmates by saying that her parents work in government agencies. Once, after arguing with her mother, Xiaofei even said: "How could I be born in such a family? It makes me unable to hold my head up!"
I have seen similar children before. Due to the poor family situation and the sensitivity of adolescence, they try their best to hide it for fear of being known by others. And their parents silently hide in the corner and never "lose face" for their children. Even if there is something, they don't appear in front of the classmates and quietly maintain the so-called self-esteem of the children.
Ran Xiaofei's mother said: "We earn our living by labor. There's nothing to be ashamed of. This time I'm going to deliver things to Xiaofei in front of the classmates and tell others what her parents do. If she can't even accept her parents, how can she be a person?"
I secretly cheered for this mother. She is amazing. She wants to correct the child's vanity with her own behavior.
I found Ran Xiaofei and talked a lot with her, telling her about her mother's good intentions. Finally, she said: "I love my parents. They are great! I also want to tell my classmates that my parents set up a small stall on the street!"
In the class meeting, everyone discussed the topic of maternal love. Ran Xiaofei said: "Although my mother is ordinary, she has given me extraordinary love!" Some classmates said: "Mother doesn't give me everything I ask for, which has enabled me to overcome the problem of greed." Some classmates said: "Mother always asks me to think from another's perspective, which has made me get rid of the problem of selfishness."
I think every mother loves her children, but the realm of love is different. Some mothers blindly obey and spoil their children. Even if the children's behavior and psychology deviate on the growth path, they are unwilling to correct them in time. While some mothers can treat children like trees, not only watering them carefully but also willing to prune the branches and leaves. This realm of maternal love is even higher.