Have you ever started to become unsure of yourself or even in a deep state of self-doubt because you are with a certain friend.
This means you're getting your energy sucked out by the other person.
A netizen from Zhihu shared her experience with her college roommate.
In her words, the reason why they became good friends was that her roommate, Lin, often came to her to chat and share her thoughts.
Originally, she cherished this friendship, but as the relationship deepened, she fell into deep distress.
Lin is a delicate beauty, see her often face to face, will intentionally or unintentionally make fun of her looks.
When they go out together, Lin will deliberately stop when she encounters a glass door, and then, like a princess, wait for her to open the door for her.
Whenever Lin fell in love and received gifts from boys, she would also take special photos and send them to her, treating her as an object of love.
One day, the two were in class, and she was concentrating on taking notes when she suddenly received a sneak peek of her side photo from Lin.
Then attached a message, wrote: look at you this ugly look, I have the motivation to study, lest later become the same as you pull satchel.
For this reason, I feel hurt, she is lost and confused, do not understand, since I am so bad, why do you want to be friends with me?
Unbeknownst to her, such a mode of getting along is exactly what the other person needs.
Like leeches, they depend on finding a suitable host and sucking blood to feed their narcissism.
If you are not guarded, you will easily be eroded by this toxic relationship and gradually develop a low self-esteem personality.
Writer Eileen Chang and her friend Yan Cherry had a similar experience.
Eileen and Yen Cherry were close friends, but when Eileen went to the United States, her life hit a low point due to a change in fortune.
At first, Yan Cherry would often write to her to express concern, Eileen was naturally willing to tell her more heartfelt words.
But I didn't expect Yan Cherry often in front of her which pot is not open which pot.
Knowing that Eileen was in financial straits, Yan Cherry also boasted about how capable she was of making money;
Knowing that Zhang Eileen in her husband's death, widowed alone, Yan Cherry also bragged about how happy and sweet their marriage.
Although she was a good friend for many years, but Zhang Ailing felt only endless coolness in Yan Cherry's letter.
After careful consideration, Eileen chose to end this friendship.
Satisfying a sense of self-superiority by stepping on others is a kind of invisible aggressive behavior.
It is different from a momentary quarrel, which may seem to see no smoke, but the destructive power it brings is enormous.
It drains your energy, drains your self-confidence, and finally exhausts you.
There is no worse damage than to dismantle a person's self-esteem.
When someone tries to belittle you, it is only right to cut ties with them and keep a distance to protect yourself.