When we were teenagers, we were looking forward to growing up quickly, while when we were in our forties, we wished time would pass more slowly. Unconsciously, these two wishes have sent me into my forties, standing at the biggest watershed in life. For more than forty years, what exactly have I gained and what have I lost? To be honest, I haven't really sat down and thought about it carefully. But generally speaking, the older I get, the more I feel that there are more important things that haven't been done yet. Perhaps this is also a sense of urgency for the fact that half of the life path has passed but the dream is still unfulfilled.
I remember that my initial dream was to definitely have a happy family through my own efforts. Because I know very well that relying on no one is the same as relying on myself. So from a very, very early time, I began to prepare and work hard for it. But it wasn't until the youth had gone and I suddenly looked back that I found that some things are not problems that can be solved simply by hard work, and there are many things that I cannot control. Fortunately, the dream about the family, after going through many twists and turns, finally came.
To be honest, for more than twenty years, the life goal has been very clear, both having pursuits and being down-to-earth. When joys and sorrows, separations and reunions, gains and losses, honors and shames are all taken for granted, the maturity and composure that a forty-year-old should have will naturally come as scheduled. Now it is obvious that when facing many things, there will be more calmness and rationality. The people and things that were "disliked" before can now be "accepted"; many things that couldn't be figured out before can now be figured out; things that seemed completely unacceptable before can now be accepted indifferently.
When we were young, we always felt that the words of the older generation were "outdated". But now, I admire them more than once. Their words are all classics, and if you understand them with your heart, you have to be convinced. I remember when I was very young, I heard adults say, "When getting married, you have to look at the family background", which roughly means that whether a boy marries a wife or a girl finds a husband, you have to first look at the family education of the entire family, especially from the way parents and family members get along and the style of dealing with people, and basically you can judge whether to keep or give up the partner. Facts have proved that most of those who "don't believe in this evil" will suffer losses.
The threshold of forty has become the foundation of building a wall in the heart. "Forty without confusion" is also enough to prove that this threshold represents the rationality after absolute maturity, and the older you get, the stronger this foundation will be. But the world tells everyone that rationality does not mean rigidity. As the times progress, people need to continue to be filled with fresh thinking and vitality while being rational. Therefore, the older you get, the more you have to remind yourself that you must keep up with the times, not only looking back at the past and casting a nostalgic glance, but also constantly "renovating" yourself by following the pulse of the times.
In fact, after the age of forty, it is found that for rural people born in the 1970s, the happiest time is childhood. At that time, there was no homework, no interest classes, and no tutoring. The nature of children was released to the fullest among the mountains and fields. Even if occasionally beaten up a little by parents, but after waking up, they would immediately be full of blood and continue to follow their nature to feel the carefree happiness. Although the living standard at that time was very low, but running barefoot in the fields with children in the same village or chasing in the narrow courtyard and poor alley, what was felt was the ultimate happiness, and now that kind of happiness can never return.
Yes, some people say that life is a circle, starting to draw a circle from the day of birth, and when life ends, it is back to the original point, and this circle is all the journey of life. On this circumference, there is carefree happiness and well-being, there is the difficulty and cruelty of life, there is the evil and calculation of human nature, and there is the hardship and gain of pursuing dreams. But people after the age of forty will increasingly understand: No matter what the process is, we must all adhere to kindness and tolerance and positive energy, and go straight towards the dream in our hearts. Only in this way, life will definitely not be wrong.
Crossing the threshold of forty, half of the life path should have been traveled. Only after passing the age of forty will we find that we are just walking in the footsteps of our parents, seeing different contents, but the essence of the soul is the same. Although we all once wanted to break free from their bondage and wanted to use our own success to overthrow their views, but facts have proved that everything is unnecessary and completely a futile effort. Now the problem is that the happiness of the family still needs to be pursued continuously, the old parents still need to be accompanied frequently, and the career that has not yet taken shape at all still needs to be persisted in.
The path of having no doubts is so simple, just like this.