When someone no longer makes requests to you, this is the biggest killer in your relationship.
When a child no longer troubles you, he has grown up.
There is a question online: When did you realize that your child no longer needs you?
A mother's answer hit countless people:
Before, he used to stick to me all day long, shouting "Mom, Mom..." for every little thing. I used to find him annoying and hoped he would grow up overnight;
Suddenly one day, he stopped seeking my help and was able to do everything on his own. It was only then that I realized that growing up was the process of no longer needing me.
In fact, the process of raising children has never been worry free.
As Hayao Miyazaki said, "Most important things in the world are very troublesome."
When a child no longer asks you strange questions, they may no longer be willing to communicate with you;
When a child no longer needs your full protection, he may have left your sight.
The time spent with your child is only a few years. When he no longer troubles you, it means he has left your shelter and flown to his own world.
In the Korean drama "Please Answer 1988", there is a memorable plot.
Kim Jong hwan's mother, Luo Meilan, once went home to visit relatives. Before leaving, she reminded and reminded everyone, fearing that the children would make a mess of the house.
A few days later, when she returned home, she thought she would see a mess everywhere, but to her surprise, the room was neatly arranged and the food in the refrigerator was cleaned up according to plan.
Watching the proud expressions of her sons, she suddenly realized that the children had grown up and she had become a dispensable existence.
I used to dislike them for not being able to do this well, but now they no longer cause trouble for themselves, and their hearts are empty.